Gaming can be a gift and a curse for many, including myself. Seeking balance can be an important aspect of any behavior, even one that gives so much joy and creative beauty.
It can be a great escape, or a chance to be a hero or villain one's always wished of becoming, and it can also help bring people across the globe together for a unified cause. While there are difficult times being different, there are also ways to grow using the very things we love so much!
Our favorite characters can show us our strengths. We can use stories from anime, manga, comics, video games, and books to be our own heroes, and I can join your party to complete quests and raids together. We can build stats that are uniquely yours.
Coaching that is gamer-affirmative.
This approach acknowledges that gaming is an essential part of a person's life. There are real memories created with real people, and the investment of time is very important in honoring when talking about gaming. Gaming can be a person's lifeline to the outside world, a chance to work through issues, and/or opportunity to spark creative exploration.
Learn strategies to balance your interests while honoring your authentic self.
Each person has a unique situation, and here are some things we may be able to work on together:
- Identify and implement strategies to reduce problematic gameplay (insert hobby or behavior here)
- Learn how gaming (or any of your interests) can be strengths in life and when to apply them
- Improve social skills through communication exercises, and developing self awareness
- Learning perspectives of others with homework and activities (yes I assign readings & homework!)
- Build trust with your loved ones and strengthen healthier habits by working on smaller, achievable goals
- Connect with loved ones by expanding on how we all see games or playing together
- Create community through self-acceptance and finding your tribe
Support your geek or gamer through education and quests.
Yes, you can get quests, too! It's important to work with loved ones when possible. If open to collaboration, here's what we can try:
- Parents: learn about developmental stages your child is working through, and how to model emotional regulation and boundaries (I will assign readings & videos)
- Discuss discipline versus punishment and age-appropriate consequences
- Learn about escalation and de-escalation with conflict, language choice, and family rules for problem solving
- Communication and self regulation exercises will be identified and practiced together
- Identify how gaming (or behavior) affects the relationship, what your relationship needs are, the alternatives to getting them met, and compromises (if any)
- Gradually create ritual or family bonding through agreed-upon activities (taking turns to share individual interests)
Note: I screen potential clients for goodness-of-fit and collaborate with those who have therapists. Since therapy is many times process-oriented, coaching with me can help build a foundation for skills, but this is not therapy and does not treat mental illness. If you are open to it, I will help find some referrals when coaching may not be right at the moment.