When The Past Visits Again...

Holidays mean lots of lights, food, and gatherings. It can also mean revisiting pains from the past. Some things you can do when this happens:

-find safe people
-develop boundaries and identify what you need
-seek community
-find a therapist

On my blog:

-journal or art to process
-allow chances to repair when others don't honor your experience
-share in smaller bits or allow people to check-in if they're overwhelmed by the emotions involved, yet still want to show care

http://www.organizedmesses.com/bsripom/2015/11/17/youre-still-dealing-with-that

Relationship Triangles 2 (example)

Just wanted to add an example of what a common relationship triangle may look like!

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Relationship Triangles (Quick Definition)

Ever get pulled into someone's drama? Do you ever pull others into your relationship problems? Triangling occurs pretty naturally to alleviate discomfort, yet conflicts continue to persist. Relationship experts may be able to help introduce new communication and conflict resolution skills. 

Please check out additional resources under the video. 

RESOURCE:
The Eight Concepts of Bowen Theory (2006) by Roberta M. Gilbert, M.D.

TRIANGLE ARTICLES:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fixing-families/201106/the-relationship-triangle

https://www.thebowencenter.org/pages/concepttri.html

http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/family-triangles-when-someone-gets-put-in-the-middle-0618134

http://www.familyfocusedsolutions.com/doing-bowen-turning-theory-into-practice/

Again, finding the right clinician can help heal and grow current relationships. I hope the information can help catalyze change.

FIND A THERAPIST: http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/