Thoughts on Work & Self Care

Sometimes a job is just a job, and sometimes a job is something more. Many of us, including me, have become our jobs where we lose our sense of self, and burn out (teachers, officers, therapists, first responders, nurses, doctors, healers, parents...) I'm starting a new job and wanted to make a video to remind myself to do self care, and do things for me so I can continue doing the best I can.

What kinda of self care do you do, and how have you managed personal and professional things?

10 Tips for Self Care | Organized Messes

Being a Teenager & Gossiping

Quick thoughts on gossiping and being an adolescent. Some encouragement to seek someone to talk to for emotional support: a friend or a trusted adult. Some adults remember what it's like to be a teenager. Some of us want to help guide your decision making and listen without judgement.

Some tips for self care:

http://www.organizedmesses.com/bsripom/2014/7/18/10-tips-for-self-care

5 Steps of Conflict Resolution:

http://www.organizedmesses.com/bsripom/2014/4/8/ordinary-people

What was it like being a teenager for you? Was gossiping a problem, and how was it resolved back in the day? Please comment below.

Thoughts on Kindness

I attended a wedding for a friend from high school and resonated with the kindness he shared over fifteen years ago. I just wanted to encourage others to be kind because you'll never know how that one gesture can follow someone for life.

Kindness is never wasted.

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7 Benefits of Mealtime

Our culture is making it easier to isolate oneself from others. Here are some benefits of having meals with loved ones. Any other benefits? Please share in the comments below!

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1. Opportunity to unplug from electronics
2. Being present to enjoy all your senses with food
3. Conversation & conflict resolution with others, in person
4. Increase empathy & expressing feelings in person
5. Healthy eating habits modeled for children
6. Ritual & memories, giving definitions of self & family
7. Makes people feel important to be invited to meals & conversation

Response to HuffPost Article: The Likely Cause of Addiction

Response to Huffington Post article on where addiction likely comes from.

Also want to say that there may be predisposed brains and bodies to it, but this is a general response on the social and loneliness aspect of the article. Our compulsions to repeat will very likely remain over a lifetime, but the urge may decrease and the bouts may decrease with a better interpersonal quality of life. Please read and share your responses :) 

Huffington Post Article:
http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/6506936

The Age Of Loneliness:
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/oct/14/age-of-loneliness-killing-us
 

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CBT Cognitive Triangles & Journaling

Wanted to share a CBT intervention that I thought was pretty neat. Cognitive triangles can help us organize our thoughts, feelings, and identifying behaviors related to a trigger event. These triangles can also help us step back and process alternative thoughts of behaviors that may help us see things more positively. 

Try it out and let me know how it goes :)

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Love Languages:

http://www.organizedmesses.com/blog/2013/12/i-choose-you.html

Reflective Listening:

http://www.organizedmesses.com/blog/2013/11/re-its-not-about-nail.html

Bowen Family Systems Therapy (BFST) - Differentiation & MBTI

There are many variables that affect how people process the words of others. This video is a general comment on MBTI and seeking balance with being more rational or feeling with processing information. 

There may be other parts of a person to address, and other skills that may help. Therapists may be able to offer support in learning new coping tools while seeking balance with thinking or feeling preferences.

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Bowen Family Systems - Differentiation:

https://www.thebowencenter.org/pages/conceptds.html

Active Listening:

http://www.organizedmesses.com/blog/2013/11/re-its-not-about-nail.html

Genograms: Over Functioning & Under Functioning

Brief description of a Bowen Family Systems intervention: genograms, and quick overview of over functioning and under functioning relationship patterns. 

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ENFPs & Checking in With Overstimulation

ENFPs: Do you know when you're being overstimulated? Just came back from making videos and conversing with a fellow geek in psychology. We spoke for almost 5 hours and I wanted to make a brief blurb on the importance of self care as an extrovert. 

What are your tips for self care in crowds or working with large organizations? Introverts, please share your tips :)

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Bowen Family Systems Overview

 Brief overview of  #BowenFamilySystems  became a longer blurb! 

5 Systems-Related Reasons Why People Don't Ask For Help:
http://www.organizedmesses.com/blog/2014/01/are-you-allowed-to-ask-for-help.html

Psychology peoples!: Which theoretical orientation(s) do you gravitate towards? 

Other peoples!: Any patterns that you've identified in your family of origin, and how have you coped through them?\

Ackerman Institute for The Family:
http://www.ackerman.org/documents/view/11

Components of a Genogram:
http://www.genograms.org/components.html

Epigenetics and Inheritence:
http://learn.genetics.utah.edu/content/epigenetics/inheritance/

Bowen Theory:
https://www.thebowencenter.org/pages/theory.html

5 Characteristics of Self-Differentiation:
http://www.emu.edu/seminary/timothy/documents/FiveCharacteristics.pdf

Triangles Video(s):
http://youtu.be/eF-2PLKIIIc
http://youtu.be/6LMW_rgAzGA