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The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut, PhD https://amzn.to/3889x25
Being a 4 comes with wonderful gifts of creative expression and depth of feeling. Many times, though, we hold onto the beliefs that we must suffer to be congruent to who we are, and that we do not deserve good things. Part of our growth and healing includes challenging these messages and welcoming joy, to accept that we are worthy as we are, even embracing good things in life!
Additional Content:
What to Do When ENFPs Go MIA https://youtu.be/NS7uo4H_UnY
The Pendulum of Change https://youtu.be/MiGUqIlJTVw
Re: Pendulums of Change - Bowen Family Systems Cutoffs & Fusion (Enmeshment) ENFP INFP HSP Outcasts https://youtu.be/VpRcagL72LI
"The Four's resonance with the Shadow can also be seen in the fact that they have a natural gift for understanding the deeper emotional level of experience and seeing the beauty in darker emotions that other types would rather not feel, much less acknowledge. This can make them feel dangerous to others on an unconscious level, as Fours may raise the issue of authentic emotions that others would often rather not deal with." Beatrice Chestnut, PhD The Complete Enneagram, pg. 268
We 4s can offer a lot to inspire or encourage the Shadow work of others we meet. The balance and essential work we also must do requires working through our own Shadows before we introject others' struggles as our own.
ENFPs & Careers: Encouragement for the Messy Path https://youtu.be/mMVg9bIrStY
ENFPs & Success: On Work, Being Authentic, & Other's Opinions https://youtu.be/YewjMNROv7A
Components Essential to Thrive as ENFP: https://qr.ae/pGIfdg
Careers for ENFPs: https://qr.ae/pGIfEA
List of traits for ENFP careers: https://qr.ae/TUGBN3
Attachment:
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment https://amzn.to/29uMhue
- Attachment Theory https://bit.ly/2GcJdnN
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs https://bit.ly/2nY3jfd
Cognitive Functions:
- Dave Super Powers https://bit.ly/2LuFl3k
- Personality Hacker https://bit.ly/2JjvsJ3
- Personality Cafe (forum) https://bit.ly/2M9EJ45
Trauma:
- The Body Keeps the Score https://amzn.to/2JFJYdK
- Trauma & Recovery https://amzn.to/2JkIyWC
- The Drama of the Gifted Child https://amzn.to/2kWkgUh
- How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across the Lifetime TED TALK https://bit.ly/1w1DJW5
(not mentioned)
- Eastern Body Western Mind https://amzn.to/2sQyLfB
- Man & His Symbols https://amzn.to/2kXhKx2
- Man's Search for Meaning https://amzn.to/2LzL8EW
- The Highly Sensitive Person https://amzn.to/2sQSITF
- The Artist's Way https://amzn.to/2HwajWf
- Daring Greatly https://amzn.to/2LyRGDz
- Flourish: a Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-Being https://amzn.to/2JuGuXR
- The How of Happiness https://amzn.to/2sFRH1D
- Mindsight https://amzn.to/2LxNbcy
- Bowen Family Systems Theory https://bit.ly/2rRXX74
- Defense Mechanisms (video) https://bit.ly/2LuGiIW
- CBT ABC Model https://bit.ly/2sNOkoD
- Learned Helplessness (+ Cure) https://bit.ly/2uJhOrH
- GRIT (TED Talk) The power of passion and perseverance https://bit.ly/1XBHWfI
- Harvard Working Papers, Child Development https://bit.ly/2Jw0xZx
- Addiction & Codependency https://bit.ly/2sPUHYy
DISCLAIMER: This video and links are for educational purposes only. Please have a professional work with you if seeking therapy or support with mental wellness.
Attempting to answer the question of how to find the right art medium as a creative. I don't think I answered it directly, but I hope it gives an idea of one of many ways someone can find their medium/media. Thanks for watching! How did you know you found your medium?
The Artist's Way: https://amzn.to/2xSuhLg
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For more information on Bowen Family Systems:
https://thebowencenter.org/theory/eight-concepts/
Using my current context to illustrate how ENFPs may be "scattered" by choosing multiple ideas, jobs, and paths in life: we tend to get excited about possibilities and connecting knowledge into something novel. This involves studying and exploring multiple disciplines. To live this way can be concerning for people in our lives because it is not linear or predictable. It can lead to people challenging our life choices and it comes off as harsh. It comes from a place of care because they've seen the rules of the world, and they've seen how hard it can be to live in a way that is not supported by these rules.
It comes down to us questioning how we are living. Are we living our best life? Are we living for our joys or to please others, or avoid criticisms? It is something to consider. *Note: there is nothing wrong with living for others, and for ENFPs there can be this internal struggle with being authentic if and when one chooses to live by their own terms.
To learn how to separate oneself from the opinions and judgments of others can create a stronger sense of inner peace to continue living for oneself. We can honor the care and concerns of others, while also living one's authentic path. Most of the time people worry when they see you worried. Continue following your joy, and over time, it can be that loved ones will learn to accept and adjust to your worldviews, even if they don't truly understand.
Sharing my current reading list and the parts I've read. What about you? Share your book treats! :)
Current Reading List:
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This is my longest ramble on #ENFP stuff. I was thinking about how #Quora is an excellent platform for MBTI people to find answers. They are currently working on video responses (beta). If you have any questions related to MBTI, mental health, early education, please ask me on Quora or here. I'd love to help out how I can.
QUORA: https://www.quora.com/profile/Boontarika-Sripom/answers/ENFP-personality-type
NAMI Warmline: http://www.namioc.org/services/emotional-support/nami-orange-county-warmline
#introverts on Quora may also have answers for us online. Reach out and someone might have an answer or resource to help you along your journey!
BODY SCAN: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D8oKWQiEWYs
MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCE LINE (California): Dial 211
Boonie Sripom, MA | coaching for artists, geeks, and gamers | www.organizedmesses.com
NOTE: This is for educational purposes. Please take time to seek multiple opionions or refereces. See what fits you, and sometimes asking a professional like a therapist might also help with your process. These links are one of many to consider. Some information might resonate with you, none of it might. Please take time to find what feels right for you.
Stages of Change: https://experiencelife.com/article/the-stages-of-change/
Being Stuck: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/feel-stuck-life-secret-dealing/
Being Stuck: http://www.marcandangel.com/2014/09/14/10-things-to-remember-when-youre-feeling-stuck/
ENFP likes and dislikes: https://www.quora.com/What-are-characteristics-about-your-Myers-Briggs-personality-that-you-dont-like-and-like/answer/Boontarika-Sripom
What Does it Take For an ENFP to Be Happy: https://www.quora.com/What-does-it-take-for-an-ENFP-The-Inspirer-to-be-happy/answer/Boontarika-Sripom?srid=To3s
ENFP Overcoming Overthinking & Hypersensitivity: https://www.quora.com/How-can-ENFP-overcome-the-overthinking-and-hypersenstivity
Anxiety Gaming: https://anxietygaming.com/
Vision Board: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elizabeth-rider/the-scientific-reason-why_b_6392274.html
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Boonie Sripom, MA
Life Coach & Speaker organizedmesses@gmail.com
Disclaimer: This site and its contents, shared links, and resources are for educational purposes. They are not a replacement for psychotherapy or professional help. Please feel free to seek a second or third professional opinion.